I’ve had a couple of clients cry on me this week, because life has been difficult for them recently.

I’m pretty certain that most of us have moments when life grinds us down and we don’t quite know how to fix things.

For guys especially there is still this unconscious stigma that crying is a sign of weakness. But this is absolute bollocks (pardon the French!). Crying means that your are dealing with the emotions and feelings causing you disturbance. Crying is a sign of strength because you are facing your demons head on.

Numbing yourself with drink, taking drugs, over working and finding other ways to suppress your pain will only prolong the agony. Putting on a brave face when you are struggling isn’t a sign of strength, it’s denial.

Lots of people put on brave faces and act like everything is fine, when really things aren’t ok at all.

We look around, at work, at friends, and on social media and see everyone around us happy, the smiley profile pics, fancy family trips to New York, shredded 6 packs and bikini bodies everywhere.

It’s easy to feel isolated and beat yourself up because you feel like there’s something wrong with you and that you shouldn’t ‘feel’ the way you do.

But the truth is that we all have our own inner battles going on, whether that’s to do with relationships, self esteem, business, finance, parenting, it’s totally normal.

The real key to transformation is the relationship you build with yourself.

Building up your self esteem, treating yourself with love, kindness and compassion. Showing gratitude for all the good qualities you have whilst working on the areas you’d like to improve.

Transformation doesn’t start with the body it starts in the mind.

Don’t beat yourself up, be kind to yourself and be kind to others for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Thanks for reading,

Nick 🙂