It’s not your weight that’s the issue : it’s your mind…
07/04/2019If you’ve been struggling with your weight for years then you might want to tune into this post…
If you’re the type of person who’s unhappy with your weight and how you look, and frustrated because no matter what you do… you just can’t seem to change – then don’t worry because I have some advice which I believe will help…
If you’ve been struggling with your weight for years (perhaps most of your life) then I have some very hard to accept home truths…
NO DIET WILL WORK.
NO EXERCISE PROGRAM WILL WORK.
It doesn’t matter what you do you will fail.
You may change for brief periods of time, for example…
You may have had enough, let’s say at Christmas you stuff your face (who doesn’t by the way?) and then you sit down just before the New Year approaches and you say to yourself…
“i’ve had enough of this sh*t”
“i’m going to do something about this”
“i’m going to lose 2 stone next year and keep it off for good!”
And fair play you do…you lose a couple of stone, your diet has improved and you are exercising frequently, but then slowly you start to drift back, your weight stalls or even worse – goes up a few pounds, and before you know it…
2 months have past and you are back to square one, you’ve pilled back on the pounds and you feel like absolute sh*te (pardon the French!) – You blame yourself and feel ashamed…
”I’ve failed again”
“when will I learn?!?!”
Etc, etc – it’s like kicking yourself when you’re already down on the floor.
The reason you’ve drifted back is because those old habits and beliefs about yourself have crept back in, and you naturally revert back to how you used to be.
The truth is that for obese people or yo-you dieters the area you need to focus on is not just the body but…
YOUR MIND.
Weight is always related to your feelings, it’s often negative feelings such as…
- Unworthiness
- Depression
- Guilt
- Feeling ashamed
- Embarrassment
- Loneliness
- Revenge
- Hate
- Anger
- Blame
- Worry
- Frustration
- Disappointment
- Insecurity
- Grief
It’s often underlying feelings like this which haven’t been addressed and are trapped in your mind like computer viruses.
The emotions are there, just waiting to be activated by external situations…
- a friend lets you down
- you get criticised at work
- your partner leaves you
- bad weather
- you get stuck in a traffic jam on your way to work
- An unexpected bill lands through the door
etc, etc!
You may not always be aware of your underlying emotions, you may be able to distract yourself for a while with food, social media, Netflix, drugs, alcohol, or whatever it may be…
BUT these buried feelings will surface and will keep holding you back unless you address them and make some improvements.
As adults we can sometimes be so out of tune with our feelings and emotions. We’re either not aware of them, or they feel so powerful and overwhelming that we just run away or numb the pain with short term fixes.
Your emotions are literally driving your everyday behaviour – they are so incredibly powerful. If you learn to process your emotions and re-wire the system for a better outcome then literally everything in your life is going to improve.
I can guarantee that if you start to look within yourself, as opposed to trying to fix your outer shell e,g, trying to lose weight, build muscle, swarm yourself with materialistic things, etc then I can 100% guarantee…
That you will start to change both mentally and physically.
New mindset content…
I’m going to be sharing plenty of ‘improve your mindset’ posts over the next few months so stay tuned. I’ll be sharing very personal stories, for example about my own battles with depression, I’ll also be sharing stories of clients (obviously names will remain anonymous – so don’t worry! lol!) and I’ll also be sharing as many tips as I can to help those of you out there who are struggling with your mind and weight.
I’d also like to use this opportunity as an invitation for those of you out there who are struggling… to message me privately – I want to help.
If you are struggling with your weight, or mind then drop me a message. P.S. Don’t worry I’m not going to try and sell you a program! Lol! This is just me offering a helping hand to listen to what you are struggling with and try and give you some free help.
You can drop me a private message on my website, social media, or feel free to e-mail me at nick@lepfitness.co.uk
Thanks for reading,
Nick 🙂